The Date is May 26th, 2016 and it is the 2 month anniversary of my mom's death and her passing from the hardships of this life into the heavenly glories waiting all those in Christ. As I was thinking about writing an update for the blog about what has been going on over the past few weeks with our family and Hearts Redeemed Ministry, I decided to rather include the talk I gave at my mom's funeral. I have decided to do this because I do not only want to remember the joy I have when I think of my mom and how much she loved her family, but I also want to share with you the reason why our family is living and ministering full-time in Thailand. It is the hope found solely in the gospel of Christ which is able to comfort and help those who are dying or have lost someone to death. The reality is that all of us fall into those categories because we are all dying and those around us are dying as well. Death will come for all, but only those in Christ will overcome the horrors of death with the hope of heaven. So as you read through the talk I shared during my mom's funereal 2 months ago, please take some time and reflect on your life and look to Christ, for it is in Him alone that those who are facing the hurts of death, can find hope in the eternal joy and peace given only in the life of Christ. (In the printable newsletters tag, there is a short family and ministry update from the past few weeks)
Greetings: Welcome to the memorial
service of Dorothy Lucinda Rutledge who has blessed all of our lives in more
ways than we can list and will be greatly missed. On behalf of her family I
would like to thank you for your gifts of kindness and condolences which you
have offered during this difficult time and we want you to know that we will be
eternally thankful for your love for us and most importantly your love for our
friend, our sister, wife, mother and grandmother Dorothy. We are grieved at her
passing but we are also grateful that she is in heaven where the pains of this
world can no longer burden her.
Eulogy:
Dorothy Lucinda
Dillon was born on September 28th, 1948 in Pocatello, Idaho. She was the
youngest child of Paul & Mary Elizabeth Dillon, her siblings are Teresa,
Margaret, James, and George. Dorothy graduated from Pocatello High School in
1966 and went on to complete her nursing education at St. Anthony Mercy
Hospital in 1968. She married Kyle Leslie Rutledge on June 7th, 1969, at
Pocatello, Idaho and moved to the Wood River Valley. Dorothy worked as a
Licensed Practical Nurse over the years in Sun Valley and Hailey, Idaho. She
and Kyle had four children, Catherine, Daniel, Dawna and Joseph and 8
grandchildren. In 2000 Dorothy and Kyle left the Wood River Valley and after a
couple years in Pocatello, they moved to Caldwell. Dorothy and Kyle enjoyed
traveling to Thailand to visit three of their children and grandchildren.
Dorothy enjoyed nursing, Women’s Aglow Fellowship, camping, sewing, flowers,
praying and giving words of encouragement, teaching her grandchildren to bake &
how to be great crafters. She loved her Lord, her husband, her family and her
friends.
Introduction: Charles Spurgeon said, “A
good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by
you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Carve your name on
hearts, not on marble.”
This morning we would like to take some time to remember
and reflect on the precious life of my mother who lived her days her on earth
with a great love for God and a genuine love for others. I was grateful that I
was able to spend the last few days of my mom’s life with her, and was humbled
to see that even in the most painful times during her fight with MRSA, she
still was more concerned for the care of others than for her own comfort. For
those who know my mom can also attest to her faithful love for others which was
only possible because of her firm love for God.
As a family we are going to offer those who too have
been touched by my mom’s love an opportunity to share briefly your memories of
my mom and also any words of comfort you would like to share with her family
during this time of mourning. Before I invite others to share though, I would
like to take some time and reflect on some truths which my mom taught us kids
not only during her life but also during her final hours before her death. I
cling to these truths and daily seek to share these truths with others, because
they are not only life giving but also lasting as they are recorded for us in
God’s perfect Word, the Bible.
I want to begin by reading 1Thessalonians 4:13-5:3. In
this we see three truths which not only my mom lived out in her life, but also
are truths which God has written for our instruction and warning. Those truths
are that the Hurt and Horror of Death are real for all of us. But the second
truth is that there is also Hope and Help offered in the Life of Christ. The
third truth is that we all must Hurry because He is calling. Let’s take a few
minutes and look at these three truths in light of not only my mom’s death, but
also the way she lived her life.
The Hurt and Horror of Death: In verse 13 we read, “…so
that you will not grieve as do the rest who have no hope,” This does
not say that we do not grieve those who die, because we see in John 11:33-35
that Jesus wept. “When Jesus therefore saw her
weeping, and the Jews who came with her also weeping, He was deeply moved in
spirit and was troubled, and said, ‘Where have you laid him?” They said to Him,
“Lord, come and see.’ Jesus wept.” Also in Romans 12:15 we are told to,
“Rejoice
with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.” When someone
dies, it is not only ok to weep, but it is a key part of the grieving process
which is helpful for hurting hearts which are healing.
There is a hurting which accompanies death and it is alright
for us to care and cry for those who have died. It was both my mom and dad who
taught me that it was ok to weep for those who have passed; I can still
remember watching my mom cry on the phone and offer comfort to her sister
following the passing of my cousin. I am grateful that my mom taught me about
the hurt of death and during the last few hours we spent with her before her
passing, I saw the tears in her eyes as she too wept knowing that soon she
would leaving us. Death hurts and it is right to grieve and as Ecclesiastes
3:1-2 tells us, “There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for
every event under heaven—A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to
plant and a time to uproot what is planted. A time to kill and a time to heal;
A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance.”
My mom also taught me that there is a Horror of Death, and that horror
is that we all will die one day. Death is not racist, sexist; it does not care
if you are rice or poor, young or old, or even healthy or sick. Death is coming
for all of us and none of us know the day or way in which we will pass, but we
all know that we will die. The Bible tells us why death is a certainty for all
of us, in Romans 6:23 it says, “For the wages of sin is death, but the free
gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Therefore those
who sin will die, but what about those who have not sinned? In Psalm 14:1-3 we
read, “The fool has said in his heart, ‘There is no God.’ They are corrupt,
they have committed abominable deeds; There is no one who does good. The LORD
has looked down from heaven upon the sons of men To see if there are any who
understand, Who seek after God. They have all turned aside, together they have
become corrupt; There is no one who does good, not even one.” Also
Romans 3:23 says, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”. Since
we all are sinners, there is Horror in the certainty of death because following
death is judgement. Hebrews 9:27 warns, “And inasmuch as it is appointed for men to
die once and after this comes judgment” and also 2 Corinthians 5:10
tells us that, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that
each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good
or evil.” That is the Horror of death, not that it is coming for all of
us but that following our death, we must face the righteous judgement of God
for all of our deeds, and as Isaiah 64:6 says, “For all of us have become like
one who is unclean, And all our righteous deeds are like a filthy garment; And
all of us wither like a leaf, And our iniquities, like the wind, take us away.”
So even our best deeds are worthless in light of Gods holiness and in light of
that death is truly the ultimate Horror show, for all of us are guilty and all
of us will not only die but face judgement for our sins.
My mom was the one who taught me many things; she taught
me how to read and write, she taught me how to cook, how to wash dishes, how to
do my own laundry, and even how to clean the bathroom. She taught me many other
things but the most important thing she taught me was that death is final and
something to fear if you were not saved into Christ and His perfect life. She was
the one who sat with me and explained the Gospel to me and how God offered hope
for not only the hurt but also the horror of death.
That brings us to the second truth which is that there
is Hope and Help in the Life of Christ who not only comforts those who are
grieving but also has conquered the grave and the power of death. In 1 Peter
1:3-5 we read, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according
to His great mercy has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the
resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to obtain an inheritance which is
imperishable and undefiled and will not fade away, reserved in heaven for you,
who are protected by the power of God through faith for a salvation ready to be
revealed in the last time.” Also in Romans 8:10-11 there is the hope
that, “If Christ is in you, though the body is dead because of sin, yet the
spirit is alive because of righteousness. But if the Spirit of Him who raised
Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ Jesus from the dead
will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in
you.” And Jesus Himself assures us in John 14:1-6, “Do not let your heart be
troubled; believe in God, believe also in Me. In My Father’s house are many
dwelling places; if it were not so, I would have told you; for I go to prepare
a place for you. If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and
receive you to Myself, that where I am, there you may be also. And you know the
way where I am going.” Thomas said to Him, ‘Lord, we do not know where You are
going, how do we know the way?’ Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the
truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.”
There is hope found in the Gospel and the Life of Christ
that the Grave can be overcome and the power of death broken. Those who are in
Christ do not need to fear death, but rather rejoice in their passing from the
temporal pain of earth to the eternal promises of heaven. Revelation 21:3-4
paints a picture of that heavenly paradise. “And I heard a loud voice from
the throne, saying, ‘Behold, the tabernacle of God is among men, and He will
dwell among them, and they shall be His people, and God Himself will be among
them, and He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no
longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain;
the first things have passed away.’”
My mom as I said was the one who kneeled with me as I
confessed my sins and admitted my need for a savior. She was the one who prayed
with me as I accepted Christ’s atonement for my wickedness and asked for God’s
forgiveness for my wrong thoughts, words, and actions committed against Him and
others. It was my mom who hugged me and welcomed me into the family of God and
also the one who helped me walk according to God’s commands by providing ways
for me to learn about the Bible, praying for me and my siblings that we would
live out the teachings of the Bible, and proving to be an example of someone
who loved God and loved others. This is the best gift my mom has ever given me,
a hope for a new life in Christ and help in living out that life for God’s
glory. It has been almost 40 years since that day when I asked Jesus to be my
Lord and Savior and since then my mom has always been there to pray for me and
provide opportunities for us to share the great news of the gospel with others.
Even during her last moments here on earth, we were able
to pray together and witness to the medical staff who were attending her of the
power and promise of a new life found in Christ alone. We grieve her death, but
we are also rejoicing that her struggle here on earth is done and that one day
all who are in Christ will join her in Heaven and celebrate the victory over
death and pain because of the Hope and Help of the perfect life of Jesus Christ
which we celebrated this past Sunday on Easter. As 2 Timothy 1:10 says, “but
now has been revealed by the appearing of our Savior Christ Jesus, who
abolished death and brought life and immortality to light through the gospel.”
The third truth which I learned from my mom as she lived
her life as a follower of Christ and also during her last moments here with us
is that those who do not have a saving relationship with God through Christ
must HURRY because your days are numbered and death is coming quickly. There is
nothing certain in this world, we can make plans but no one knows for sure what
each day has to offer. In James 4: 14-17 we are warned, “Come now, you who say, ‘Today or
tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, and spend a year there and engage
in business and make a profit.’ Yet you do not know what your life will be like
tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then
vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we will live and
also do this or that.’ But as it is, you boast in your arrogance; all such
boasting is evil. Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does
not do it, to him it is sin.” Death is like a thief which comes when no
one is expecting and will leave before anyone is alert to his presence.
Tomorrow is not granted to us and so let us not wait to turn to God and find
assurance in the hope of a new life offered only in Christ. Our plans for these
2 months in the States did not include speaking at my mom’s funeral. We had
planned to visit friends and supporters, and to also spend lots of time with my
family, but all those plans changed last week when my mother was admitted into
the hospital one last time. I did not know my mom was going to die and neither
did she. So I urge you to please HURRY and turn to God and find the comfort of
the victory of death found only in the life of Christ. John 3:16-17 are verses
we are familiar with but it is there to show us why Christ came to this earth, “For
God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever
believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send
the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved
through Him.” Christ came to
live and die for us so that we would not have to perish under the penalty of
sin, and so that we can experience the gift of eternal life. Christ Himself
says in John 11:25-26, “I am the resurrection and the life; he who
believes in Me will live even if he dies, and everyone who lives and believes
in Me will never die. Do you believe this?” Do you believe this? He is
calling to you and wants you to receive the gift of life which is found in Him
alone. John 5:24-25 says, “Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My
word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into
judgment, but has passed out of death into life. Truly, truly, I say to you, an
hour is coming and now is, when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God,
and those who hear will live.” Christ is the only way to heaven, Jesus
claims this in John 14:6 where he says, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life;
no one comes to the Father but through Me.” Jesus is not only the way
to heaven but He is calling you to join Him and those who do go to Him will not
be turned away and will find rest for their weary souls, “Come to Me, all who are weary
and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from
Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS.
For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
My mom taught me the importance of turning to Christ and
trusting in His life so that I can live mine with the promise of peace with God
and the assurance of life after death. Throughout my life I have been blessed
to travel the world and share the message of the gospel to countless people
from different tongues, tribes, and nations, but it was my mom who first
demonstrated for me the importance of sharing the gospel and even though she
never went to as many countries as I have, she still faithfully prayed for and
proclaimed the message of hope with those who God brought into her life. She
spent years praying for family, friends, work mates, neighbors, and even her
grandchildren. Praying that they would receive the gift of the new life in
Christ and live without a fear of death and judgement. She lived her life
telling people to hurry and come to God because He is calling, and she spent
her last waking moments here on earth doing the same. The last night I spent
with her before she passed, she kept on saying “Hurry, hurry, hurry”. When I
asked why I needed to hurry, she told me the names of some people close to her
heart who she was pleading with to hurry and turn to Christ because she wanted
to see them again in Heaven. My heart rejoiced to hear my mom, lying on her
death bed, still faithfully praying for and proclaiming the gospel to those
still lost in their sins.
Today as we celebrate the life of my mom and also mourn
her death, I want us all to take a moment and reflect upon our own lives. Are
we sure that we will see tomorrow, or will death come as a thief tonight and
steal away our breath. If we did die, are we prepared to face the judgement of
the Holy God? Would we be found righteous and holy and welcomed into His
Kingdom to enjoy an eternity with no tears, pain, guilt, and death? Or would we
be found sinful and guilty and therefor cast out into outer darkness where
there will be weeping, pain, and gnashing of teeth for all of eternity? I know
my mom would call out to you if she could, to Hurry, turn to Christ and live.
My mom has taught
me so many things and I am grateful for her love for me and our family, and am
also amazed at the way she loved her friends, family, and neighbors. But it is
her love for God which not only helped changed my life but I trust will change
yours as well. I will miss my mom and I will grieve her death, but I will not
lose hope because I still carry with me the memories I have of our time spent
together here on earth and also the promise that one day, when my days are
through here, then I too will cross over from the temporary pains of this world
to the eternal joys of heaven where I will be reunited with my mom and also
with my savior and creator. Today if you have doubts or fears for your future,
please do not leave without turning to Christ for help. I know that if my mom
was here, she too would tell you, “HURRY because He is calling”.
Closing: Thank you for your willingness to come and join with our family
as we grieve the passing of my mom and remember the joy she has brought to our
lives through her love for others and her love for God. At this time I would
like to close with another quote from Charles Spurgeon and then offer an
opportunity for anyone else who would like to share with us some memories of
Dorothy Lucinda Rutledge.
Spurgeon said, “There
is an essential difference between the decease of the godly and the death of
the ungodly. Death comes to the ungodly man as a penal infliction, but to the
righteous as a summons to his Father's palace. To the sinner it is an
execution, to the saint an undressing from his sins and infirmities. Death to
the wicked is the King of terrors. Death to the saint is the end of terrors,
the commencement of glory.”